1. What about the intersex people?

    bubbly-suffer-girl:

    A while ago I read a post by a TWEF titled “Well What About the Intersex people”. Now a lot of people ate that shit up because she was intersex and her point seemed pretty valid. The problem? Well it was from a TWEF, and every single intersex trans woman knows that TWEFs don’t give a damn about intersex trans people. So what I writing about today is well what about the intersex people?

    Thing is like we matter, we exist, and we aren’t a tool in your ideological battle. Whether it’s TWEFs pretending that they care about us to win imaginary points over the “genderists”, CAFAB trans people who try to use “the oppression of the intersex’ to further their transmisogyny, my own sisters using us for rhetoric, or just random asshats who don’t know a thing about us, people like to ask “what about the intersex people”.

    I’m both a trans woman and intersex. So I live this shit everyday. Your 8th grade concept of sex is bullshit. There it is. If that shatters your world good. I’ve written about it before so I’m not going to get into theory about how sex is gender. Tonight I’m just going to focus on the reality of being an intersex person.

    For starters, yeah being trans and being intersex are two different things. Secondly my existence and the existence of other intersex people is not insignificant. There upwards of more than 75 million of us alive on this planet. We are not an anomaly, we are not useless outliers. What we are is living proof that gender essentialist notions of sex are a western fairy tale. Sex is not a binary, sex is not a spectrum, sex is a lie. Thirdly dyadism is a thing and dyadic people both cis and trans need to shut the fuck up and listen. #dyadism should not be filled with dyadic people talking about dyadism.

    Pretty much dyadic people of all kinds use us as a prop; stop it. TWEFs we know you don’t actually care about intersex people because you don’t give a damn about all intersex people. Dyadic CAFAB people need to stop trying to use us as weapons to enact transmisogny (same goes for intersex CAFABs). Dyadic trans women I know you all are capable of talking about how sex is gender and how your bodies are female without pointing to us. You can also look to amplify our voices instead.

    Just if you take anything away from this, don’t use intersex people as a prop and don’t fucking ask “what about the intersex people?” unless you’re actually ready to listen. I’ve had way to many fucking dyadic people tell me to “ask an intersex person” and the argue with me about intersex shit after informing them that I am one. Cut the shit dyadic people.

    (via snow-anne)

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  2. and i said to my body. softly. ‘i want to be your friend.’ it took a long breath. and replied, ‘i have been waiting my whole life for this.’

    nayyirah waheed (via auilic)

    Aw, this feels like when I went back to not eating people :)

    (via petalsandbridges)

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  3. petalsandbridges:

    Always always do your best to listen to your instincts. As a trans woman existing at the bottom the gender hierarchy, instinct is pretty much all I have. It’s usually on, if not all the time then damn near all the time. Try not to blame yourself it’s wrong once or twice. But listen to your gut! It is, hands down, the best way to know who to trust in my experience.

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  4. radtransfem:

    petalsandbridges:

    How does my belief that transhumanism is fucked up and will lead us somewhere worse mesh with my reality as a trans woman interested in GCS and taking lab-made anti-androgens? I don’t know, but that’s me.

    Because the hormones in us already don’t belong to us. Others will have power over the technologies put into our bodies. If we take “trans” as “beyond”, that doesn’t have to mean “better than”. Transhumanism will take us even further away from humanism because it will be conducted according to the values of the day - it will belong to the military, the corporations and the outsourced state (so that’s the corporations x 3, then).

    Edit: Here’s a thing (by a dude, mostly citing dudes) that kinda covers it. For something more resistant, try Chela Sandoval’s US Third World Feminism, or her full-length book/manual/manifesto, Methodology of the Oppressed.

    Hmm this one’s even closer! Chela Sandoval again: http://www.scribd.com/doc/237278424/New-Sciences-Cyborg-Feminism-and-Oppressed

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  5. petalsandbridges:

    How does my belief that transhumanism is fucked up and will lead us somewhere worse mesh with my reality as a trans woman interested in GCS and taking lab-made anti-androgens? I don’t know, but that’s me.

    Because the hormones in us already don’t belong to us. Others will have power over the technologies put into our bodies. If we take “trans” as “beyond”, that doesn’t have to mean “better than”. Transhumanism will take us even further away from humanism because it will be conducted according to the values of the day - it will belong to the military, the corporations and the outsourced state (so that’s the corporations x 3, then).

    Edit: Here’s a thing (by a dude, mostly citing dudes) that kinda covers it. For something more resistant, try Chela Sandoval’s US Third World Feminism, or her full-length book/manual/manifesto, Methodology of the Oppressed.

    1 week ago  /  29 notes  /   /  Source: petalsandbridges

  6. petalsandbridges:

    euceae:

    Did u know that the person who popularized the concept ‘Hegemonic masculinity’ is an Australian sociologist named Raewyn Connell and she’s a trans woman?

    woh

    Yes! I got some of her books. She’s cool. :) I like her a lot on “socialisation” (will try to type up some quotes).

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  7. It is not possible to be truly balanced in one’s views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple’s problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn’t abuse.
    – Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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  8. Tell me more about how trans women intimidate you because we are “too academic”, because we have read too many feminist books. Do you know what happens when we try to go into feminist spaces, to do feminism, when we haven’t read those books?

    Some of us are staying up late every night, doing our feminist homework, when you are blundering into feminist rooms and expressing the most naive kinds of feminism imaginable; doing and saying things which would have us hounded out as men.

    Some of us are well-read because the only way we are allowed to participate at all is if we have read circles around you, if we can both demonstrate our right to be there far beyond all reasonable doubt, as well as being thoroughly prepared for any theoretic moves you may pull on us to try and trick us out.

    Some others of us are well read because we feel the weight of women’s liberation on our backs. The way our queer spaces are set up now (I say “our” with a half-smile), you can ID out of “woman” any time you like. ID in, ID out, dodge what you can. We don’t have that luxury. We are here to stay.

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  9. What provision does your politics make for women who cannot shake off the taint of men? For women who you insist “learned to be men” in their girlhood? For women who have ever been attracted to or who are still attracted to men? Who may have brushed against men’s bodies? (Is patriarchy a skin condition? An STD?) For women who cannot or will not abandon the men in their life because - unlike middle/owning-class white women like me - they share a common oppression with those men?

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