1. lesbian feminist resources on alcohol?

    ananiujitha:

    radtransfem:

    I’d like to read some lesbian feminist (or closely related) work on alcohol, from a perspective which makes links between UK culture, alcohol, patriarchy, and preferably also vegetarian/veganism. Pref. from the ’60s-’80s. Any suggestions - if any work like this even exists?

    I think Daisy Deadhead might know. Unfortunately, I think you and Lisa Questions may have had trouble with her before…?

    Thanks for the hint. Well it’s true I don’t at all agree with her on issues around trans women. But I’m used to sifting through material for what’s I think might be useful to us, so I’ll take links from anyone. She’s on block for me, though, so if you have some free time / energy and don’t mind asking for her ideas, I don’t see how it could hurt! Only if you want to tho’!

    7 hours ago  /  8 notes  /   /  Source: radtransfem

  2. lesbian feminist resources on alcohol?

    I’d like to read some lesbian feminist (or closely related) work on alcohol, from a perspective which makes links between UK culture, alcohol, patriarchy, and preferably also vegetarian/veganism. Pref. from the ’60s-’80s. Any suggestions - if any work like this even exists?

    9 hours ago  /  8 notes  / 

  3. Trans women and restlessness

    gendercontender:

    petalsandbridges:

    Cis people don’t realize that trans women weren’t born with the feeling of calm they have. And then were traumatized repeatedly through our entire girlhoods and many of us repressed a bunch of emotions during adulthood until finally coming out… only to be traumatized at a blinding rate again. Are you seeing a pattern here? We never got to sit down.

    Now, some of us -it helps to have various privileges- are getting the chance to sit down, become less hyper-vigilant, and become gentle towards ourselves after so many people have been very not gentle with us. That is a beautiful thing and this blog is about my own coming to that, but can we just look at this for a second?

    The trans woman you (say, cis women) think are a bit much, the ones who you think need to turn a down a notch? The gap isn’t that they’re “a bit masculine for you,” the gap is that you’ve never met someone who’s been through so much shit and never had a chance to rest.

    I remember a teacher of mine talking about the moment when her daughter first became self conscious. There was a moment around when her daughter was four or five that she realized her body could be judged and found lacking. But before this realization, she had lived in this world of calm, of a kind of innocent inner peace.

    My teacher talked about how devastating it was to see this moment occur, to see her daughter lose that feeling of calm. And then she asked us how many of us in the class remembered that moment in ourselves.

    That’s when I realized that I couldn’t remember ever having had that state of calm. For me, there was no pivotal moment when I learned to judge my body. Up to that point, I had never realized just how peaceful a cis person could be in their bodies. It was, and is, a level of calm that I find completely unfathomable.

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  4. If you have got a model that says an individual woman who is trying to survive an experience of rape by focusing on her own wellbeing and safety, by trying to work out ways she can keep on going or ways she can participate in something without having to experience more trauma (by asking for trigger warnings in a classroom, for instance) is participating in the same politics as a woman who is concerned with getting up “the ladder” in a company then I think there is something wrong with your model.
    – Sara Ahmed, Selfcare as Warfare

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  5. Trans women and restlessness

    petalsandbridges:

    Cis people don’t realize that trans women weren’t born with the feeling of calm they have. And then were traumatized repeatedly through our entire girlhoods and many of us repressed a bunch of emotions during adulthood until finally coming out… only to be traumatized at a blinding rate again. Are you seeing a pattern here? We never got to sit down.

    Now, some of us -it helps to have various privileges- are getting the chance to sit down, become less hyper-vigilant, and become gentle towards ourselves after so many people have been very not gentle with us. That is a beautiful thing and this blog is about my own coming to that, but can we just look at this for a second?

    The trans woman you (say, cis women) think are a bit much, the ones who you think need to turn a down a notch? The gap isn’t that they’re “a bit masculine for you,” the gap is that you’ve never met someone who’s been through so much shit and never had a chance to rest.

    1 week ago  /  265 notes  /   /  Source: petalsandbridges

  6. petalsandbridges:

    It’s time I stop expecting cis women to understand me. High time, far and away time. It’s been time. I need to stop expecting cis women to understand me last week; they are stumbling and confused in mere contact with the spaces we inhabit. I’m not saying we are better, and I am saying that we learn to walk in these spaces. We live life in places that other people cannot fathom; they cannot fathom staring into the void. The void we live in every day. Sometimes we can’t either.

    So let me say: I don’t expect them to give you support. I will support you. I will do it how I can, and that may not be much. But it comes from a place of understanding and inhabiting some of the same void that you do, so let’s not wait for these people to understand.

    <3

    1 week ago  /  16 notes  /   /  Source: petalsandbridges

  7. You Are the Change; So Please Take Care of Yourself

    petalsandbridges:

    One of my favorite writers on here publicly wondered whether people as clumped together by oppression as trans women could ever love each other. My answer to that is yes, I believe we can. And I believe that partially because I believe things are changing. Which brings me to the next thing I want to say:

    That change? I believe you -trans women, assigned-male-at-birth trans people- are it. Because this is a matter of identity, it is us as individuals who exist as this change. The storm is harder to weather for some of us than others, but I believe it is hard for pretty much all of us here in the eye. Being a change is different than experiencing a change; to be a change is to physically hold the change in our bodies. To hold the pain of the past (including the collective pain, in my experience) in one hand and simultaneously point a finger towards a new world with the other… this is where I stand, and I suspect I am not alone.

    If I want to survive this, I must take care of myself. I must focus on my health, and the health of my sisters, if I intend to weather existing as this tension between realities. Because it is hard. Because they are grinding together. Sometimes I feel it closing in and I need to eat. I need to sleep. I need to be alone and work, and focus on… something else.

    It is privilege that allows me to do many of those things. But I think my message still has relevance. It’s not easy, so please take care of yourself. Tell that friend you’re not going out. Tell yourself you’re going out, if you can manage it. Focus on something else. Treat yourself gently. For you. For us. 

    And because if you find a moment to relax, if you don’t correct that cis person and hug a trans woman friend instead… I promise: you won’t be making the change come any slower.

    boldunderlined for TRUTH

    1 week ago  /  21 notes  /   /  Source: petalsandbridges

  8. ramtops-witch:

    There’s these really bullshit expectations on trans girls surrounding feminism and internalized misogyny.

    Trans girls are expected to all be Feminist and Enlightened and not say anything influenced by internalized misogyny, otherwise it’s their “maleness showing” or something less direct along those lines.

    Like, have you ever met the average teenage cis girl? She probably either doesn’t believe in feminism or thinks “everyone’s already equal”.

    Like lol way to hyper-focus your expectations on a marginalized subset of women to dismiss them, while implying that more broadly that the moral burden of dismantling sexism is on women.

    (via lisaquestions)

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