Trans women have knowledge of what men act like when they think there are no women around.
In another social environment, this is the assumed default, too.
Online video games.
While their behaviour there is not exactly the same as it is in person… Try playing some games with chat functions, especially the more ‘masculine’ ones. Don’t say anything and let them assume you’re a guy. Listen to what they say about women.Ah, yes. A peek into our hell realm.
The only way we’re given to deal with it is avoiding trouble, so we get really good at picking up on subtext. Like, REALLY good. “It’s your job to predict the future and avoid it” good. Like, “your life actually depends on it” good. So we learn to see the world through that head-up display from “Predator.” We don’t get the luxury of not noticing stuff.–
arletterocks, On creepiness
I should add that this sense has been hard as hell for me to develop. On top of everything arletterocks mentions at the link, cis women - the same cis women who’ll support each others’ sense of what is and isn’t creepy - will gaslight the fuck out of trans women trying to develop our own Predator-vision. Most of the time the very best we’ll get will be, “Welcome to being a woman!”
Which is really all just to say that arletterocks’ story of how women develop creep-dar is only one story, and I suspect is more cis than trans. Just because she traces its development through cis-girlhood doesn’t mean that’s the only way we learn to put that kind of vision together.
Anonymous asked: I'm curious: If truly loving women requires hating men, what about bi/pan/queer women, do we not truly love women if we're capable of loving a man?
Hi. Essentially what I’m talking about is woman-identified women vs men-identified women.
I’m talking about the way you relate to men as a class, not about individual relationships with men.
It’s about whether you center / prioritize the needs of women in your day to day life or whether you align yourself with men / patriarchy.
I believe straight / bi / pan women can be woman-identified women, but I also believe that it is harder because the default of such relationships is to usually center / prioritize men.
For context and disclosure, I’m a dyke who has some male friends I care about and I have experienced attraction to men at points in my life. But I center women, specifically other trans women, both politically, emotionally and romantically in my day to day life, and am trying to learn ways to keep moving towards that the best I can every day.
Not sure if this answered your question but I hope it helped.
I don’t talk about man-identified women. Unless the person involved actively disidentifies from women— I don’t put any woman who calls herself a woman in the box, “man-identified woman”— I think that’s like putting a death sentence on her. “You’re done. We’ll leave you to rot.” I don’t think “woman-identified woman” needs a discursive opposite.
That said I also prefer “women-identified women” not “woman-identified”, because it’s the class of “women” we’re talking about.
– Susan Griffin, The Uncharted Body, in The Eros of Everyday Life (Doubleday, 1996), p198
The arm neat in its outlines. A straight line, sharp edge, undeviating as the wooden ruler I inherited from my grandfather, border of skin defining where I begin in space.
And then I shut my eyes. And I let the idea of an arm drift away. I begin to explore what I feel in that area of my body I call an arm.
Energy. Moving out in every direction. Elongated sphere of radiance. No clear line. A pulsing motion even in stillness. Arm.
We do not move. We are movement.– Emily Conrad-Da’oud
If you know any “angry” trans women or “unpleasant” trans women… I am them. If there’s a “bad one” anywhere, I am not a good one. I come with the collective story of trans people assigned male at birth. If you diss it you diss me.
I have rarely seen cis people as confused as when I said this to them once. “what? you want us to put you over there with the bad ones? but it’s so much nicer here!” it’s like they’d never heard the word “sisterhood” in their lives. cisses, huh?
aw what a cute small child exhibit. and what a treat for the otters! I bet they weren’t expecting that when they went out to the wildlife centre today! I wonder how they feed them in that tiny bubble though?
As a white person, I never have to think about race, except on those rare occasions when I am in a non-white majority space… .But gender is different. Everybody has a gender.
- Julia Serano (source)
White feminists are constantly compelled to speak about race. Not as a singular point of focus, but as a step to the thing that really matters, “gender.” When white feminists use race (or any other axis of marginalization/oppression) as a means of comparing and contrasting, and elevating the cause of gender activism they teach us that we should think less of those other causes and shift focus to gender. Brief mentions of race — before forsaking that discourse — to make a point about how important your thoughts on gender are, don’t remind us about race in a constructive way that disassembles whiteness or white supremacy, but instead reinforces the hierarchy and the object/subject relationship. White feminists, in a linguistic trick, use the readers strong feelings about race and racism in order to raise the stakes of their conversation on gender. It’s, quite literally, a leveraging of white supremacy — followed by a quelling of white guilt — against decades of work by POC, womanist, Xicanisma activists on race and racism to elevate white gender discourse by feeding off the energy a reader is compelled to by reading discussions about race; which is, of course, at the expense of anti-racism discourse and action.
People on Employment and Support Allowance (ESA) will not be automatically retested until another firm can be brought into help, a leaked memo has revealed.
Atos have announced that they want to end their £500million contract with the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) a year early, blaming death threats.
well fancy that
"death threats" are of course a kind of politics which never has any kind of success
and militant opposition is always oh so wrong
weird though how lots of people are now going to escape from under the death sentence of an ATOS assessment